Many people plan their own funerals ahead of time, as well as how they’d like the event to be carried out. While pre-arranged plans and wishes are committed to and fulfilled whenever and wherever possible, associated costs still have to be paid. Family members and friends are grieving the passing of a loved one, and the last thing they want to think about is the bottom line–the cost. That’s why pre-funding your funeral could be the last gift you give to those you leave behind.
The Heart of the Matter
Pre-funding your funeral is not required to pre-plan, but there are certain benefits to the concept, such as:
The eulogy tends to be the most memorable part of a funeral. Not only is this speech a special opportunity to list the accomplishments of the departed, but it gives attendants a much-needed moment to reflect on specific, obscure, or even surprising details that were carefully curated over a lifetime.
Indeed, a funeral eulogy can offer a type of liveliness to an otherwise somber event. However, unless you are an experienced writer or public speaker, offering a eulogy can present a daunting challenge.
Forest Through the Trees
It can certainly be difficult to write a memorable funeral eulogy, and the challenge can feel overwhelming when you’re grieving. Writing a funeral eulogy, however, can potentially help you work through sadness and in turn, help others through their grief with your words. It’s not only an honor to provide a picture of a life that has passed, but it’s a shared experience that lends itself toward communal healing.
One of the most distinct, powerful, and moving funeral ceremonies involves the playing of Taps, followed by the resounding fire of a rifle salute. There is an innate sense of honor and pride in this act of acknowledging the dedication and bravery of a United States veteran. To this day, military service earns one of the highest forms of recognition and respect.
For family members and loved ones, accessing this service for the departed is a priority, and many wonder exactly how to secure military funeral honors.
The team at Miller Funeral & Cremation Services is here to assist you and answer common questions to help you provide this dignified, moving tribute to your loved one.
While it’s not a particularly pleasant experience, the fact remains that the majority of us will attend a funeral or memorial at some point in our lives. For many of us, knowing what to say or how to support the bereaved can be an elusive and intimidating topic. The last thing we want to do is say something clumsy or upsetting, or unwittingly commit a funeral faux pas.
In this digital age, etiquette and traditions can seem confusing as methods of communication and sharing change. The use of technology has especially challenged the way we used to pay our respects. Video, live streams, and other forms of electronic media, for example, are more commonly utilized as a way to include loved ones in a funeral service who are unable to attend. This may seem odd and even inappropriate to some, but come across as a loving gesture to others.
Many people approach the concept of death – and the process of dying – with a fascinating list of unending questions. Some keep all of this wondering deep within themselves because they fear that discussing this sometimes “taboo” subject might be perceived as morbid or unhealthy. Others, thankfully, embrace the mystery behind the transition from life to death and give their questions the time and energy they deserve. This is exactly the point behind a death cafe, a safe space that cultivates awareness and acceptance.
The Power of Authenticity
The idea of the death cafe evolved from the Swiss sociologist Bernard Crettaz. He believed that openly discussing death leads to authenticity, then launched cafés mortels in 2004. He traveled throughout Switzerland hosting these public conversations before moving the idea to Paris in 2010.
The sudden loss of a family member or friend is one of the most difficult experiences we face. But when that death occurs abroad or some distance from home, the shock is compounded by the complexity of how to handle the details.
There’s something about the holidays that brings out the best memories and, in turn, reminds us of what (or who) is missing. When grieving, it may seem like the rest of the world is light-hearted and joyful, which can amplify a sense of loss.
The effects of this season are understandable and normal. They also open the door for making space, both for self-care and new traditions. The following are some suggestions for dealing with grief during the holidays and allowing others to lend their support. Continue…
If it hasn’t happened to you yet, it’s likely that it will only be a matter of time: You logon to Facebook to find a notification that it is a dear one’s birthday, and would you would like to wish them well. Your heart catches in your throat for a split second and a wave of sadness ripples through your body; your dear friend is actually among the dearly departed.
As you catch your breath and begin to scroll through your feed, you find a smattering of mutuals are, in fact, posting birthday wishes to your friend’s wall… And you wonder if you should too. But moreover, you wonder: What does happen to my Facebook account when I die?
Why It Matters…
For many of us, social media, and Facebook in particular, is the go-to resource to learn about what is happening with our friends and family. This makes Facebook a natural resource when it comes to letting the public know about the passing of a friend or colleague.
You should always make every attempt possible to let family and close friends know before making a death announcement on social media. No one wants to learn of their closest friends and family passing away on Facebook. Continue…
From candy skulls and costumed processions, to candlelit vigils in local cemeteries, El Día de los Muertos, or The Day of the Dead, offers a way for family and friends to honor the spirits of those who have departed this life.
Born from pre-Columbian times, El Día de los Muertos combines pre-Aztec ritual with post-Conquistador Catholicism, and has been celebrated in Mexico and various South American cultures for centuries. Recently, however, Día de los Muertos has grown in popularity throughout Texas and the Southwestern United States, and has begun to infiltrate the popular culture surrounding Halloween. People from all backgrounds and ethnicities are embracing the idea of a colorful, spirited, and positive way to honor the lives of those who have gone before us. Continue…
As the weather outside becomes colder and the nights longer, some people find reading to be a sensible distraction, an opportunity for learning, and an avenue of connection – particularly when the author’s experience mirrors one’s own.
When working through a major loss, books can provide that shared experience, the validation of feelings, struggles, and thoughts common to the grieving process. Well-written books have the power to provide keen insights or simply act as a caring “aha” when you think you must be the only one feeling this way.
Books also provide some pragmatic suggestions or tools for recovering from loss. Daily meditations or reflections, for example, might be just the right amount of quality reading for some, while others may prefer to read weighty religious or spiritual books, from the bible or Koran to new age or metaphysical nonfiction. Continue…