May 16, 2017 by Miller Funeral & Cremation Services Staff
The eulogy tends to be the most memorable part of a funeral. Not only is this speech a special opportunity to list the accomplishments of the departed, but it gives attendants a much-needed moment to reflect on specific, obscure, or even surprising details that were carefully curated over a lifetime.
Indeed, a funeral eulogy can offer a type of liveliness to an otherwise somber event. However, unless you are an experienced writer or public speaker, offering a eulogy can present a daunting challenge.
Forest Through The Trees
It can certainly be difficult to write a memorable funeral eulogy, and the challenge can feel overwhelming when you’re grieving. Writing a funeral eulogy, however, can potentially help you work through sadness and in turn, help others through their grief with your words. It’s not only an honor to provide a picture of a life that has passed, but it’s a shared experience that lends itself toward communal healing.
A Remarkable Portrait
A eulogy that focuses on the enduring legacy of the departed is a powerful gift to all who attend. Most family members and friends enjoy hearing a list of highlights, such as:
- Favorite childhood memories
- Academic accomplishments
- Career achievements
- Military service
- Family milestones such as marriages, births, adoptions, etc.
- Travel experiences
- Hobbies or special interests
- Friendships
- Community service
- Personality quirks
- Special talents
The best funeral eulogy is typically honest, sincere, touching, and heartfelt. You want to paint a remarkable portrait of the deceased, and that may include certain setbacks or misfortunes. However, a lighter tone is always recommended.
A Unique Funeral Eulogy
Another way to connect with those listening to your funeral eulogy is to share a special memory of the person you are honoring. This memory should be a shining example of who this unique person was in life, so that you can all remember them together in death. A humorous anecdote is often employed to bring grieving people closer together.
Embracing The Moment
It’s important to give yourself enough time to thoughtfully conceive the appropriate theme, compile adequate stories, and remember the character of the deceased. Then:
- Complete a series of drafts
- Ask for feedback from friends and relatives
- Rehearse standing in front a crowd of people
- Get comfortable with the microphone, lectern, etc.
- Print an extra copy for yourself (double-spaced and large font)
- Have someone standing by for backup, in case you become too emotional to deliver the eulogy
- Carry water with you should your mouth become dry
Worth Remembering
It’s perfectly natural to feel anxious, nervous, or even vulnerable about writing and delivering a funeral eulogy. If you have any questions or concerns about preparing this lasting tribute to your loved one, please contact us.
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